I love my wife, but I can’t stop thinking about her older brother

I’ve never believed myself to be bi, and certainly not gay, and I love my wife. I don’t understand why I’m feeling this because it’s not me.

It’s Irish Mirror‘s Dear Coleen column by Coleen Nolan, that has got this letter from a “straight” man. Sometimes families are complicated, this might take it to whole new level….

I’m in my 30s and I’ve been married for three years now but I need to get something off my chest – I can’t stop thinking about my wife’s older brother in a romantic way.

I’ve never believed myself to be bi, and certainly not gay, and I love my wife. But her brother is driving me loco! He’s rich, successful and funny. He’s also good looking and cool, a sharp dresser and a really nice guy. I don’t understand why I’m feeling this because it’s not me.

I wouldn’t act on my feelings, unless by some miracle he made a move on me. I have too much to lose and don’t fancy being single again. I’m hope you can help.

And Coleen replies to the man in need of some kind of advice :

It sounds more like adoration to me – a huge man crush on someone who’s everything you want to be.

You know you can’t go anywhere near him in a romantic way and realise how much you have to lose if you did. Even if you decide you are bisexual or gay, your brother-in-law would not be the right person to go for.

And at the end Coleen says : And don’t mention how you feel to him – or your wife.

What kind of advice would you give this man ? Do think this is the right advice ?

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