He also told the tale of his first love. Explaining it happened when he was 14/15 and fooling around with a straight male friend of his. Olly Alexander made the heartbreaking confession that he thought the straight male was in love with him. Adding that with hindsight, he felt like he was taken advantage of.
He spoke at National Student Pride 2017 at the University of Westminster on 25th February on the Attitude #LetsTalkAboutSex and Relationships Education Panel.
“Gay people didn’t exist… I had no idea how gay people had sex.”
“My first encounter of [gay sex] that was Queer as Folk. There’s literally a scene where they’re spitting on the hand and I was like, what’s going on!?”
“I fell in love with a guy that was the year above me in school… He was straight. I think lots of straight guys experiment with guys in school but that doesn’t make them gay.”
“I thought he was in love with me but for whatever reason, nothing ever came of it. But we used to fool around and that was when I was probably about 14 or 15.”
“I had a couple of experiences with older guys too that looking back on, I realise I was taken advantage of. But at the time was desperate for the attention, the relationship. I was desperate for education.”
In the video Olly describes when he first saw gay sex, in a scene from Queer as folk. Mimicking the spitting on hand and sticking it where the lube was needed.
On the panel – he was quite clear, his sex education was not good enough. He described what he was told about gay sex was dirty and hidden away.